Thankful for Life 2.0



I’m thankful for my wife, the only person on earth who truly understands me. I’m thankful for the handful of true friends in my life, who always seem to give more than they take. I’m thankful for my parents, who brought me into this world and taught me to use my common sense. And I’m thankful for my children – Life 2.0 – who give me the gift of experiencing the wonder of the world a second time!

Depth of Place Photography Opening: November 9, 2012

Update: THANK YOU to everyone who attended, and a special thanks to everyone who bought a piece! If you missed it, you can join us for the closing on December 14.


Please come see an exhibition of my latest photographic work, Depth of Place. Twelve 30" x 20" photographs will be on display from the series, and prints will be available for purchase.

Opening: Friday, November 9, 2012, 6-10 PM, during the Tremont ArtWalk
Location: Mastroianni Arts, 2688 West 14th St., Cleveland, Ohio, 44113
“The moment after something happens,
the echo of the event is still there.
Staring at a wall or an object, our mind
begins to break down the surface.
Looking into a space, we project
what happened there.”

My intent in these images is to capture a frame of time, a before and an after; to attune the viewer to the unseen emotions echoed everywhere we go.  The images are a recognition that even in the most mundane places, it is likely that something meaningful happened there, somewhere along the line.

Even without people, places have depth, and they have emotional resonance. 

Max's "I AM" Poem

My son Max's "I Am" poem, written this year as he began fourth grade:
I am caring and demonstrate confidence
I wonder what I will be when I grow up
I hear a marker talk
I see the world's largest ice cream cone
I want to be an architect
I am caring and demonstrate confidence

I pretend to be a dragon
I feel muddy water running through my legs
I touch a rocket
I worry if a tornado will form here
I cry when my fish die
I am caring and demonstrate confidence

I understand that things die
I say, "Don't give up!"
I dream I live in a mansion
I try to play piano nicely
I hope to live a long time
I am caring and demonstrate confidence

A Good Show

"One can learn such a lot and enjoy such a lot in seventy years, and three generations is a long, long time to see human follies and acquire human wisdom. Anyone who is wise and has lived long enough to witness the changes of fashion and morals and politics through the rise and fall of three generations should be perfectly satisfied to rise from his seat and go away saying, 'It was a good show,' when the curtain falls." --Lin Yutang

Depth of Place (Update 2)

Here is another new image from my "Depth of Place" series of abstract photographs:


Depth of Place (Update 1)




Additional photos from the "Depth of Place" set posted earlier this year.

Quilt Patterns



These are the quilt patterns I designed that my grandmother will make…eventually.

Depth of Place






Just before, or just after, something happens, the echo of the event is there, sensed but not seen. Staring at a wall, or object, our mind begins to break down the surface and reveal the inside. Looking into a space, we project what has happened there, creating a story, forgotten when we walk away.

Max's World at Age 7



This is my boy, of whom I am so proud, reading Harry Potter 4 on the couch last night.  He's a Lego builder, a log-walker, a piano player, a fledgling fencer, a super-math-kid, and just a little too good at video games.

Esmé Spelling



Esmé (now 4) is doing a great job spelling phonetically...look at all the words she sounded out and typed all by herself!  My favorite is 'cupcake'...

The End Of Our One-Car Era

After 10 years of using public transit (seven of light rail to my office, three of bus during graduate school), I am now officially a full-fledged car commuter. You see, my office relocated from the downtown core to one of those 'nice' suburban office parks. Unsurprisingly, it is not well-served by public transportation. Perhaps it was time anyway--the kids are getting older, and we're starting to see the beginnings of multiple, overlapping extracurricular schedules. It was a bit sad to break our 13-year run of being a single-car household, but there was at least one fringe benefit: We cleaned out the second car space in our garage, and threw away about six cubic yards of god-knows-why-we-were-keeping-it junk.

So the bad news is that we're now buying two tanks of gas per week. The good news is that the new mode of transportation has 300 horsepower and no less than six beautifully-proportioned, manually-selectable gear ratios.

Transient Places

Airport hotels are strange Petri dishes of humanity.

Mentos & Coke

Just one of about 15 things we did to try to occupy the six 7-year olds at Max's birthday sleepover:

Mentos & Diet Coke


First time trying this, I'm glad it worked as well as it did. Of course, the novelty wore off quickly and we resorted to movies & video games to sedate the horde.

My First Paperweight

My briefcase is extra-heavy today with the beautiful painted paperweight (rock, that is) Esme made me in preschool. "Daddy, it's for the papers to not fly off your desk!" Thanks, special girl. (I'll wait until you're older to discuss heremetically-sealed high-rise office buildings...)

From Fish to Infinity

Steven Strogatz, a professor at Cornell University, just concluded a great series of articles in the NYT articulating math concepts (from simple to complex) in accessible language. I've really enjoyed reading these over the past several months...here's the first article, and a link to the entire series.

Wi-Fi in Amish Country

After arriving home from a road-trip to Amish country yesterday, I asked Max to tell me the most interesting thing he observed during the day. He said, "They don't use electricity, but there's Wi-Fi in the coffee shop."

Passport Update

Kids are required to update their passports every 5 years (rather than every 10 for adults)...for obvious reasons:

Max's Passport Photo 2005Max's Passport Photo 2010


That whole growing-up thing happens pretty quickly.

Cleveland International Film Festival 2010

This year, the marketing team behind the Cleveland International Film Festival asked people to submit stories of how the festival has affected them. Authentic Films then produced several trailers for the festival, each featuring a series of these stories chained together, sharing a theme.

Cleveland International Film Festival Trailer.


Since Rose and I met and went on our first date because of the film festival, we were asked to participate. So of course we brought the kids along for the filming, and as you'll see, Max steals the show. (Our trailer is called 'Family, Friends, Love'.)

Tenth Anniversary

On February 18, Rose and I celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary. I love her today more than ever. When we were first married, we got a lot of advice on having a successful relationship--some useful, some not so useful. Couples are as different as people, so it's tough to find blanket advice that applies to everyone. One important thing we have learned: To be happy as a couple, you must be happy as individuals. Being strong as a stand-alone person makes being together as a couple, in love, all that more meaningful.

Another secret to a good marriage: I roll the toothpaste tube neatly from the end, and she grabs and squeezes the hell out of it right from the middle.*

*That is, we have vastly different, but complementary, approaches to a shared outlook on life.

Biologically Inspired Design

Tokyo metropolitan rail system, as interpreted by slime mold.This is the kind of thing that really excites me: fundamental connections among biology, design, and human behavior. A group of Japanese scientists has shown that "the slime mold Physarum polycephalum forms networks with comparable efficiency, fault tolerance, and cost to those of real-world infrastructure networks--in this case, the Tokyo rail system."
Comparing an organism's behavior to a designed human system, then learning from that organism's 'reinterpretation' of the system in order to develop better models of design...amazing.
Link to summary article and full report ("Rules for Biologically Inspired Adaptive Network Design").

Max's Robo-Gator

Maxie-boy built and programmed this Lego Mindstorms Robo-Gator all by himself from the instructions. All I did was install the programming software on our PC, and help him connect the robot's CPU via USB to download the behavior program. I am very proud that he could handle such a complex project on his own at age 6.

Mindstorms uses simple icon-based "if-then" type programs to tell the the motors what to do when certain feedback is received from various sensors. In Robo-Gator's Case, when the eye-sensors "see" something within 60cm, the legs move and make the gator lunge forward. When something is within 30cm of the eye sensors, the jaw motor makes him bite repeatedly. After attacking, Robo-Gator retreats and waits for his next victim.

Christmas Questions

Last week Maxie asked: "If Jesus came to make the world a better place, then why do people still litter?"

Keep asking, Max...keep asking.

The Winning Project

It's a sustainable, transit-oriented development with lots of green space, integrated bicycle access to campus, high-end residential & retail, and a 23.4% return on equity. Good job students, I am proud.

Transit Oriented Development.


(This project was my jury's choice for 'best concept, best feasibility, best fit' for my 2009 Real Estate Development class at Kent Architecture.)

Don't Turn It Off--Kill It

All of our homes are full of electronic devices that use power when off. Estimates of so-called 'standby' or 'vampire' power use range from 10-15% of a household's total annual consumption. These devices sit there, waiting to be used, waiting for the remote control to activate them, telling us the time (do we need that many clocks?), their little red/orange standby lights glowing, waiting to jump into action.

StandbyI decided that I didn't like all those lights and clocks staring at me anymore, so I installed a 'kill-switch' on our family's living room entertainment center. Actually, what initially prompted me to do this was the surprising amount of heat I noticed when opening the doors of the armoire that contained all of our (supposedly 'off') devices: LCD TV, PS3, PS2, Wii, A/V Receiver, DVR. To accomplish the task, I simply mounted a surge protector on the back of the armoire, hidden from view but in an easily-adult/kid-accessible location, and plugged all the devices into it. Switching the surge protector off puts the devices into a true zero power consumption state--no glowing lights. (Detail: I did not connect the DVR to the kill-switch--otherwise it wouldn't be able to grab the shows it was programmed to auto-record.)

I've tracked our power consumption since installing the kill-switch in mid-September. Compared to the same 3-month (Oct-Dec) period last year, we're using 27% less electricity. That's amazing. Certainly a large portion (but not all) of this savings is attributable to the kill-switch. The remainder of the savings, I believe, simply comes from the fact that we're all paying more attention to our power use in general--turning off lights more quickly, etc. This behavior of course is a direct result of the installation of the kill-switch. It reinforces something I've learned over the years: The mere act of paying attention to something often leads to improvement of that thing.

Relative electricity use, 2008-2009.

Previously: Generating less trash.

Strange Hybrid Creatures

Esmé's strange creature.

I love Esmé's cute (but slightly disturbing) Bunny-Bug.

Thankful for my beautiful wife and children, thankful for health, thankful to want for nothing, thankful to be alive in 2009--best year for the human race so far...

Esmé Writing

Esmé writes her name.
The way Esmé writes the 'S' in her name makes me happy to be alive...

Esmé writes the word apple.Esmé writes the word mommy.

Above-left: Esmé draws her interpretation of an apple, and writes the word "apple", but spells it "ALIME". Above-right: Esmé draws mommy and does her best to spell it. Ask her how to spell "mommy" and she'll tell you: "OMOMOMOMOMOMOM ... and a Y!"

One Year Ago

Japan & KoreaFor the past couple of weeks our family has been quietly celebrating the one-year anniversary of our trip to Japan & South Korea--going out to a Japanese restaurant with friends, making sushi/kimbap at home, looking at all the pictures.

It was such a volatile year--with so many things going on--and this trip in some ways became the pin around which everything revolved. But amidst all the activity, and all the craziness preparing for this novel experience--once we finally arrived we found peace, relaxation, the kindness of strangers, and the generosity of friends. In the middle of some of the busiest cities in the world, we were chilling, on vacation.

I remember... the long flight, extra-special treatment at Japanese customs, the room (and the high-tech toilet), turning a corner and discovering Shibuya at night, the JR Yamanote Line, Asakusa, Akihabara, Ginza, Kamakura, Rose at Hase-dera, morning in Harajuku, Omotesando, Shinjuku, Mitaka, Ghibli, Maxie and the shinkansen, Yasaka-jinja, the ryokan, Hiromi, Higashkiyama, Kiyomizu-dera, Nara, soaking in the bath, the graveyards, Gion, Esmé and the Geisha, eating a village (kaiseki), Narita, Seoul, long drive, kids romping, dinner with friends, Gyeongju, mountain sunset, Sokkuram grotto, burial mounds, wandering around Seoul without kids, Insadong, Nanta, good-byes...

These experiences cast a long shadow.

All I Have to Do Is Show Up

Earlier today, Rose (my wife, that is) and I spoke for no less than 35 minutes on the phone, doing nothing but coordinating our calendars. Apparently my life is pretty well laid out now, and all I have to do is work, sleep, and show up at these various occurrences. Adds a bit of simplicity to things, I suppose.
Max lost his first tooth today!

My Little Big Girl

Esmé started preschool today! In the Carroll-Merendino tradition, she had no trouble saying goodbye to us and getting on with her business. Mom & Dad, on the other hand, were having a hard time leaving the building...

Fastest 12 Months of My Life So Far

This past weekend I was catching up on organizing our digital photos. I'm typically quite good at archiving, labeling, organizing our family's media, but since our trip overseas last year I've been a bit behind (9-12 months behind to be exact).

So the most recent photos downloaded from our camera include Maxie's first day of school as a first-grader. As I'm sorting the images, I find myself looking at last August, when he was starting Kindergarten--and a wave hits me. It feels, literally, like he was starting Kindergarten yesterday. Even as we were walking him to school last week it didn't hit me, but looking at the photos brought it home like a bomb. I can remember everything we did in the past 12 months (it was a busy time), but for the life of me I feel like I blinked and now we're here.

I know I'm just wending myself through a cliché here (and my parents are probably laughing), but I've never felt time pass this quickly before, and it's never hit me so hard.

Advice on Picking Blackberries

Advice from my Dad last night, to Max and me as we started to pick blackberries (applicable to life in general):
The big, juicy ones tend to hide from you.

Almost Free

I just stopped using Microsoft Outlook in favor of an all-Google solution to email, calendar, contacts and tasks (since now Google calendar and contacts sync with my mobile phone). Outlook is such a bulky program, I'm thrilled to drop it.

This leaves only two non-free software components in my computer network: Windows Vista and Quicken. I've got my eye on Mint.com as a replacement for Quicken, but I'm not quite ready to make the jump to keeping all my financial data in the Cloud. Plus, Mint seems a little to 'automatic' for me. Here's the basic software run-down:
  • Browser: Chrome
  • Email/PIM: Gmail
  • Office: OpenOffice
  • Security: AVG Free, Spybot S&D, Ad-Aware, CCleaner
  • Imaging: GIMP and Paint.NET
  • Media: iTunes, WMP, VLC Media Player
Almost there. Previously.

I Love the Future

I am thankful to be living in a time when we have the privilege to debate over health care. I love the future; so much better than the past.

Recently, I heard a fool say...

Adults aren't any smarter than children, and what's really sad is to see someone who thinks they have it all figured out.

I think the fool is right.

Rural Economies

Driving through rural Ohio last night, passing horse-and-buggies on their way to a local produce auction, Rose and I were wondering if these areas are hit harder by economic recessions than urbanized areas. Probably. If your town was less-than-booming to begin with, what must it be like in a global recession? Or perhaps these economies operate semi-autonomously.

Hot Birthday

The hot weather today--Maximilian's 6th birthday--reminds me of how hot, clear and bright it was the day he was born. Happy birthday Maxie!

Solstice Girl

On summer solstice 2003, my beautiful girl Esmé came into the world. She brings long, warm days and happiness. Happy 3rd birthday Esmé!

Max's First Piano Recital

Last weekend Maxie-boy (soon to be 6) had his first piano recital..and he NAILED IT! We are pretty casual with his lessons--once every two weeks with semi-random practicing. We simply want to give our kids an artistic and technical appreciation of music. The intent is, along with other activities and interests, to raise well-rounded children. So he had been practicing his pieces pretty regularly, but could only play them 'perfectly' about 60% of the time.

Look at that face!

There must have been something about the atmosphere of the recital--the other kids (all older than him), the parents, the venue--he was *just* a little bit nervous, and this edge seemed to bring out his best. He carried himself like such a young gentleman! It was really a special moment for him, for Rose and me, and even for little sis Esmé who was--surprisingly--very well-behaved the whole time (though we did fear for a moment that she was going to break out in song during the performance).

Last night I had a dream about over-abundant search engine results.

The Case Against Kindergarten Red-Shirting

Almost every state has increased the age at which children are allowed to start primary school. This is remarkable, given the strong evidence that, in the United States, starting school later decreases educational attainment.

Redshirting is referred to as “the gift of time” in education circles, reflecting a perception that children who have been allowed to mature for another year will benefit more from their schooling. As we will discuss, little evidence supports this perception.

Link to the full study (PDF); via The Atlantic.
Esmé has entered the terrible twos. This one is beautiful, but beware, she has a will of steel.
Last night, we were getting in the car to go home after a little get-together. It was a beautiful, cool night, and the stars were out. As Max was getting into his seat, he looked up at the sky and said,
Daddy, outside is like a big room, and the sky is the ceiling, and all of the things in the world are just like things in the room.